ANGER is merely a SYMPTOM of many other aspects of an individuals’ life that is out of balance.
Inappropriate, Uncontrolled Anger can cause abuse in relationships, domestic violence, serious legal issues and health problems
Myths and Facts about Anger
Myths: Only some people feel angry.
Fact: Women, men and children feel angry.
Myth: Sometimes people get angry without any reason.
Fact: The reason may not be obvious but with exploration and self-awareness people can understand the factors that resulted in anger.
Myth: Angry people cannot be controlled.
Fact: Feeling angry is normal. When anger is not understood and expressed in a healthy way people may respond with harmful behavior. People can choose to respond in a healthy way in the face of anger.
Myth: Angry people do not care about other people
Fact: Anger is a normal emotion. People cannot be classified as angry or not angry. Often caring about another person’s feelings and being unable to communicate appropriately results in frustrations that build up to anger and rage.
Myth: Anger is a bad emotion
Fact: Anger is an emotion that indicates that something is out of balance in an individual’s life and can motivate an individual to explore and implement changes that can be beneficial to themselves.
Myth: Angry people hurt other people and do not feel hurt.
Fact: Anger hurts the individuals experiencing anger equally if not more than the other person. Angry behavior results in unmet needs, increasing feelings of frustration. Unresolved anger has been associated with in high blood pressure, severe headaches, and chronic heart disease and is physically harmful to an individual.
What may be the cause of Anger
The way an individual perceives themselves, others and their environment can sometimes affect their emotional sate. Environmental, life stressors, and genetic factors can cause an imbalance in neurochemicals in the brain. These imbalances manifest in sudden changing moods and/or changes in perception and/or depression. Just as fatigue is a symptom of diabetes, irritability and anger may be a symptom of depressive disorder.
Relationship of Anger to Physical Health
Anger is related to:
More frequent headaches
More frequent muscle aches (shoulder, stomach, neck and back)
More sensitivity to pain
Higher likelihood to eat more fatty foods and smoke more
Higher likelihood of cardiac problems (high cholesterol and blood pressure), diabetes and cancer
Longer periods of recovery from wounds and infections
Shorter life span
If you are struggling with anger issues you probably have experienced at least one of the above mentioned physical problems.
Treatment of Anger
For treatment to work YOU HAVE TO WANT A BETTER WAY OF LIVING. You need to admit to yourself that inappropriate anger is a source of pain for you.
You need to be willing to explore, understand yourself better and learn new ways of coping with difficulties in your life,
In the treatment of the symptom of anger I focus on helping the client become aware of the influences of the body, the family and the society on himself/herself and the choices they make in reacting to these influences. It is my hope that through the process of treatment clients’ can explore and learn alternate ways of expressing their anger and address other issues underlying the anger or angry behavior.
Topics Covered in Treatment
Developing Nonabusive Relationships
Abuse and Its Consequences
Healthy and Unhealthy Relationships
Understanding and Managing Difficult Situations and Your Reactions to Them
Identifying and Describing Difficult Situations
The Experience of Anger
How to Cool Down
Taking a Time-out
Using Relaxation Techniques to Cool Down
Communication and Conflict Resolution
Expressing Anger and other emotions
Negotiation and Compromise
Factors Contributing to Violence, Abuse, and Anger
Anger-Producing Thoughts/Anger Themes
Effects of Stress on Relationships/Managing Stress
Effects of Substance Use/Abuse of Relationships
Effects of Childhood Experiences and Parenting on Relationships
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